When do we say YES and when do we say NO? Making choices can protect our self from unhappiness — or from happiness! Here are some quotes from writers about the values of saying yes or no. And you’ll notice some contradictions between the writers; these are offered as food for thought, not the final answer.
When you learn to say yes to yourself, you will be able to say no to others, with love.
Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.
Say Yes. Whatever it is, say yes with your whole heart & simple as it sounds that’s all the excuse life needs to grab you by the hands and start to dance.
I never intended to disappoint you. You created a one sided promise I never agreed to. Note to self: A request is not an obligation. A one-side promise is the recipe for resentment.
It takes effort to say no when our heart and brains and guts and, most important, pride are yearning to say yes. Practice.
In youth, it was a way I had,
To do my best to please.
And change, with every passing lad
To suit his theories.
But now I know the things I know
And do the things I do,
And if you do not like me so,
To hell, my love, with you.
…there are often many things we feel we should do that, in fact, we don’t really have to do. Getting to the point where we can tell the difference is a major milestone in the simplification process.
Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn’t have the power to say yes.
It takes true courage and real humility to say NO or YES!
A diary means yes indeed.
Honoring your own boundaries is the clearest message to others to honor them, too.
No is easier to do. Yes is easier to say.
When I claim more than what I can handle, I limit the opportunities for another person in my community.
Not every opportunity it meant to be my assignment.
Saying yes all the time won’t make me Wonder Woman. It will make me a worn out woman.
Although the act of nurturing another’s spiritual growth has the effect of nurturing one’s own, a major characteristic of genuine love is that the distinction between oneself and the other is always maintained and preserved.
If you travel far enough, one day you will recognize yourself coming down the road to meet you and you will say yes.
All the mistakes I ever made in my life were when I wanted to say No, and said Yes.
What’s helped with saying no to others is asking myself first if I’m saying yes out of guilt or fear. If so, then it’s a polite no.
If you must say yes, say it with an open heart. If you must say no, say it without fear.
When you say YES to others, make sure you are not saying NO to yourself.
Sometimes we receive the power to say yes to life. Then peace enters us and makes us whole.
There is no meaningful yes unless the individual could also have said no.
NO is a complete sentence. It does not require an explanation to follow. You can truly answer someone’s request with a simple NO.
Let today mark a new beginning for you. Give yourself permission to say NO without feeling guilty, mean, or selfish. Anybody who gets upset and/or expects you to say YES all of the time clearly doesn’t have your best interest at heart. Always remember: You have a right to say NO without having to explain yourself. Be at peace with your decisions.
You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage pleasantly, smilingly, and non-apologetically – to say “no” to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger yes burning inside.
No is a complete sentence and so often we forget that. When we don’t want to do something we can simply smile and say no. We don’t have to explain ourselves, we can just say “No”…. Love yourself enough to be able to say yes or no.
If the person you’re talking with continues to press you for more or can’t seem to accept your answer, then you are being harassed. I know that sounds hard for people-pleasers to accept, but it’s true. No means no.
No is always a door-closing word; Yes is a door-opening word.
Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.